Do you feel like your relationship with your kids is a battle and you’re losing? If you do, then maybe you’re asking the wrong questions and maybe you have the wrong perspective on your relationship with them. In Mark & Jan Foreman’s Never Say No: Raising Big-Picture Kids, the Foremans ask the question of how can we as parents, instead of attacking our children’s wrong behavior, instead focus on our relationship with them?
Never Say No breaks the parental mold of behavior/outcome based parenting and instead frees you up to focus on our relationship with your children and how to help them become the children that God created them to be. This takes place on three different arenas: (1) Beginning with yourself and you as a person and a parent, (2) Providing your child with a safe place to grow, and (3) Preparing your child to be launched into life as an adult. Through it all, there are ample calls to, when you err, to always err on the side of grace.
This book is also full of practical advice for parents in the areas of:
- Creating a Road-map for your family culture
- Filling up your child’s love tank through the time you spend with them
- Cultivating Creativity
- Spiritual Formation
- Conversation and the Power of Words
- Family Relationships
- Important Family Rituals
- The Internet and Media Usage
- Culture and Consumerism
- Launching Your Adult
This book the experience of one family and the facts of how they defined their family culture to success. These experiences are taken to find general principles that lead to effective parenting. There are a great many words of wisdom to be found in this book, and I believe that many parents will find this to be a challenge to do something different and to focus on their relationships with their children. While the decisions that they made may not be the same as all the decisions that we have made in our family (because of our different family cultures), I believe that they’ve produced a beautiful book that is a stepping stone for a family wanting to step into a more grace-based or gentle parenting approach.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. I was not required to write a positive review.