Yesterday, I talked about praying over the most important question that surrounds your homeschool. Should you homeschool? Today, I’m going to discuss the question that I see most often in the Facebook groups that I am in and the websites that I visit.
What do I do if I want to homeschool but my spouse disagrees?
This question is invariably asked by a woman who really wants to homeschool, but whose spouse either doesn’t think that they are capable of homeschooling or who believes that their children should be in either public or private school. So, I will address this from the ladies’ side of things.
Praying their Heart Will Change
The best thing that a lady in this position can pray for is that the Lord will change his heart and that he’ll come to agree with you about homeschooling (or at least agree to give you a chance to homeschool). Homeschooling is not something that is done alone or done in a vacuum. I consider spousal support to be one of the most essential parts of a good homeschool. As Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says:
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
This is the kind of support that can pick you up on a day that you have fallen and encourage you when you are down. Trust me! There will be down days when you want to quit, and if you don’t have a supportive partner, you probably will quit.
Praying that your Heart Will Change
As ladies, we are commanded by the Bible to submit to our husbands (even when we think that they are wrong). There are a lot of calls in the Bible to submit. This one from I Peter chapter 3 is one of my favorites.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Thing about submission is that it’s a heart issue and a pride issue, not just a head issue. We submit in our hearts, just as we want our children to submit to us. Until we submit in our hearts, we’re always going to feel resentment toward our spouse if we don’t get our way.
If this is difficult for you, pray that the Lord will change your heart. Pray that God will show you all the cool things your children are doing in school and all the ways that they are growing in the Lord at school. Pray that God will make you content in all the blessings that he’s given you.
The most important thing in homeschooling (or in any decision) is to be unified. Pray for that kind of unity, and God will give you and your spouse the answers that are right for your family. God will not call you to homeschool your children without calling your spouse too. Often wives just feel a stronger burden towards homeschooling because they are the ones who will end up doing the bulk of the schooling.
Come back tomorrow when we’ll be talking about praying over your curriculum choices!
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3. Tess @ Circling Through This Life
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5. Kayla @ The Arrowood Zoo
6. Joelle @ Homeschooling for His Glory
7. Deanna @ His Treasure Seekers
8. Melissa @ Grace Christian Homeschool
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